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A lesson from my cat

I saw an interesting scene between my three animals.

Dogs and cats can work things out on their own most of the time. At least that’s the case for my three.

I have two tabby cats. Scout is skittish and reactive. Beamer is confident and calm. And then there’s my Lab mix Ace.

Here’s the scene:

Ace was sound asleep on his dog bed, tucked away in the corner and snoring.

My husband was holding Scout. When he set him down, Scout ran across the room and smacked Ace right on the nose.

This happens several times per week. Scout has a low frustration tolerance, and he takes it out on the weakest victim – Ace.

Normally Ace takes it like a champ, but not this time.

Ace lunged at Scout, growled and tried to mouth him.

Watching this from the couch, my initial reaction was to scold Ace. He is 70 pounds and has no business snapping at anyone.

But if a cat is stupid enough to challenge a sleeping Lab, doesn’t he deserve a reaction like that? Maybe Ace was teaching Scout an important lesson: “Some dogs aren’t so tolerant. Some dogs will attack cats who act like you.”

And then I got my lesson: Just let it be.

Beamer calmly walked into the center of the room between the others. He looked Ace right in the eyes.

All tension disappeared.

Ace had been lying down the entire time, but now he looked away and went back to sleep.

Scout had long forgotten the incident.

And then Beamer calmly walked away, too.

They all resumed their naps.

There was nothing for me to do. No need to get involved.

Two cats on a big dog bed, one dog on a small bed

There is always communication going on between animals that we humans will never understand. We say we know what they are thinking, but we do not. We say we can read their body language, but we cannot.

Conversations take place between my pets daily. Their language is foreign, and by the time I understand what’s happening, they’ve moved on.

They’re always a step ahead.

What do you make of this scene? What are some examples of conversations you’ve seen between your pets?

Josh

Monday 18th of February 2013

I like how the cats bed is bigger that the dogs bed.

Lindsay Stordahl

Monday 18th of February 2013

This is typical at our house!

Dawn

Wednesday 13th of February 2013

Scout's reaction to being scolded is hilarious! I don't blame Ace for reacting the way he did. I think you're right in that he was only giving warning. I believe dogs should be allowed to give a warning. Without being allowed to give a warning, he might go to more drastic measures next time. My Lab Maya has been relatively quiet why my pesky Aussie mix Pierson plays rough with her. But she's finally decided to take a stand. Now their play is more gentle. Except when dealing with someone else's pets (because the reaction of other pet parents is unpredictable), I agree that we should just let them sort it out for themselves.

Lindsay Stordahl

Monday 18th of February 2013

Good points. I also think dogs should be able to give warnings.

rachel

Wednesday 13th of February 2013

Both my cats want to nurse on the dogs. Kaya finally reached her breaking point and snarled at Marty. I did scold her because I didn't want it to become an escalating problem. Now she just uses her paw to push the cat away or smothers her in kisses which I much prefer. Now Norman is the one who gets nursed on, he doesn't mind but I always push the cat away and she's getting better about it.

Lindsay Stordahl

Wednesday 13th of February 2013

Ha! Your cats are so funny! I'm glad they all get along so well overall! They are such a cute bunch!

Flea

Wednesday 13th of February 2013

My uncle's favorite saying applies here, and we use it in all kinds of situations we want to stay out of - it's a matter between cats and dogs. In our house, it's a matter between dogs and ducks. I should probably apply your wisdom in my own back yard.

Nancy's Point

Wednesday 13th of February 2013

Body language says a lot even among animals I guess. It's interesting your first reaction was that you should come to the rescue. It's hard sometimes to wait things out a bit. (It's even harder when children are involved) Conflict resolution is an important skill, even among animals!

Our two dogs and one cat communicate daily too. Once in a great while there will be a snarl or even a snap from the dogs toward the cat. I haven't quite figured out what the "tipping point" is, but their communication system seems to be working for them. Great post.