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Changes in my dog’s behavior

My mutt Ace has become a more social and confident dog.

I adopted Ace in March 2007 when he was exactly a year old. He was very friendly at this time, but also submissive and even shy. He didn’t know how to play with other dogs, although he enjoyed being around them. He didn’t eagerly greet new people in public, although he would accept affection if someone approached him.

Today he happily licks other dogs in the face and would love to go home with any random stranger!

I’ve noticed some additional changes in my dog’s behavior this year. He is now 4.5 years old, well into his adult life. I don’t see any of these behaviors as good or bad, they are just signs of Ace becoming a more well-adjusted dog.

All of these behaviors have become noticeable in the last six months:

Signs of a more confident dog

Ace the black lab mix sitting in Lindenwood Park, Fargo, N.D.1. My dog marks.

Ace was originally a squatter. I did not see my dog lift his leg once to pee on anything for at least three years. He is naturally a submissive dog with no need to mark his territory.

He also spent the first year of his life with a family that tied him out in their front yard where there was nothing but grass to pee on. They did not walk him, so he had no opportunities to pee on trees or fences. He was not around other dogs, so he never learned the behavior. He never got into any “pissing contests.”

At age 4, my dog has finally become a man. It was actually a little shocking to see him lift his leg for the first time and pee on a tree! Now he feels the need to mark everything from the little patches of grass other dogs have peed on, to sticks, pieces of trash and even mushrooms. OK, he’s a little out of control with his marking at times.

It’s obvious Ace learned the behavior from the other dogs we’ve hung out with through my pet-sitting and dog walking business. And maybe because we have more dogs come to stay with us, he feels the need to mark “his” territory.

2. My dog humps other dogs.

When Ace meets new dogs, instead of automatically taking on the submissive role, he now goes through the normal dog ritual of figuring out a hierarchy. Yes, this means he tries to hump other dogs from time to time. Nine times out of ten, the other dog puts Ace in his place right away. Every now and then, Ace is the more dominant dog.

3. My dog growls at other dogs.

Ace used to back off if another dog wanted something. Now he claims his space, food or toys if another dog challenges him. He will growl, raise his lips and raise his tail. This does not mean my dog is possessive or aggressive. He is saying, “Hey, this is mine! Back off!” If the other dog is more dominant, Ace does back away.

Our dominant cat Beamer will try to claim the space around Ace’s food because it worked for about three years. Now Ace puts his head low, growls and holds his own until Beamer backs off. This is the only time Beamer is submissive to Ace. Throughout any normal day, Beamer will take Ace’s bed and tennis ball and will even trap Ace on the stairs, but Beamer is no longer able to steal Ace’s food.

4. My dog plays with other dogs at the dog park.

It used to be completely “normal” for my dog to ignore all other dogs at the dog park. He would run around and obsessively search for tennis balls without even acknowledging other dogs, even if they were chasing him, humping him or trying to wrestle.

I’m happy to report that during a recent dog park visit, Ace happily greeted the 10 or so other dogs at the park while not even looking at the tennis balls. He sniffed each dog, figured out a hierarchy with each dog, played, chased and wrestled with each dog. It was so nice to go to the dog park and see my dog actually socializing. We can play fetch in our own backyard any day.

Of course, after about 20 minutes, Ace picked up a tennis ball and brought it to some poor lady. I debated rescuing the woman, but she was one of those people who are fascinated by a dog who retrieves. “Wow! How did you train him to do this?!”

Oh, boy …

Why has my dog’s behavior changed?

I have offered pet sitting and dog walking/running as my full-time job for more than two years now. Ace socializes with a lot of other dogs every day. He has learned how to play and interact with dogs. He’s learned how to be a dog, and he’s thriving.

The behaviors I’ve listed are signs of dominance. A few years ago, I may have considered “dominance” to be bad. It’s not. There are more dominant dogs and there are dogs that tend to be followers. It’s the same way with people. Ace is definitely still on the submissive side. It’s just that he asserts himself better than he used to.

Some of the changes in Ace’s behavior could also be because of how I treat and interact with him. I do fewer structured walks and runs with him than I did three years ago. He goes on more “pack walks” with other dogs where I’m less focused on Ace. I’m much more likely to invite him up onto the couch or my bed these days. I give him more affection than ever, and we spend more time together now. He’s very, very spoiled 🙂

Overall, I’m proud of my dog and where we’ve come. He is well socialized. I trust him around all other dogs. He listens well, and he wants to make me happy. He is still part lab, though, and will wonder off with anyone holding food or a tennis ball. I don’t take offense. Ace is just being who he was meant to be – a goofy mutt who loves everyone.

Good boy, Ace.

How has your dog become more confident recently?

Ace the black lab mix hiding in tall grass in Gooseberry Park Moorhead

abby jenkins

Tuesday 16th of November 2010

Go Ace Go! Our dog Cheddar was a scared, and scarred rescue pup when we got him, his first interactions with other dogs were an alpha female heeler (she intimidated me!) and a big orange male tabby who roamed our Vermont neighborhood. Ched sure learned the picking order pretty quickly, as a bordercoliie/chow mix he is brilliant. Squatting. shying away from small dogs and cat a tenth his size. Flash forward five years, we have moved from VT. Cheddar lifts his leg high and is king of his domain. I'm glad we started out slow. Helped him find his feminine side!

Lindsay Stordahl

Wednesday 17th of November 2010

I'm glad Cheddar is doing well! Funny how a cat can control a big dog - happens all the time!

Thea

Sunday 14th of November 2010

Peggy, my dog doesn't usually play well with other dogs either. We made progress by learning to ignore dogs she doesn't like instead of lashing out at them. She doesn't really like most dogs, but she'll meet a buddy every once in a while.

It would be nice if she were more friendly... but then, I don't want to socialize with most people I see when I go out, so if she wants to be somewhat aloof it's ok.

Lindsay Stordahl

Monday 15th of November 2010

You have done such a wonderful job with your dog. I'm glad that she has learned to just ignore the dogs she's not particularly fond of. I'm just like you - I don't want to socialize with most people, either!

Peggy @Peggy's Pet Place

Sunday 14th of November 2010

Yay for Ace. Sounds like that makes for a happier dog. My dog won't play well with most other dogs, which is something I'd like to try to work on. I get the impression that she thinks she should be the only dog in the world!

Lindsay Stordahl

Monday 15th of November 2010

Ace doesn't play a lot either. He wants to wag and bound around for about two minutes and then he just wants to chill out. Some dogs are just go-go-go, and I think it's mostly because they are underexercised and not exposed to a lot. Everything is an event to them!

Thea

Saturday 13th of November 2010

My girl marks! She seems to be very "status-conscious," but I see this as a sign of her insecurity, so I'm happy that she doesn't raise her leg anymore.

My dog has gotten more confident with communicating to me about what she wants. Even if I'm just a big slow human with no sense of smell. She will go sit by the gate to the dog park to say "I don't like this crowd, let's leave" --then right after we left, 3 dogs got in a fight and had to be pulled apart. And she'll bring her toys to me to ask me to play one of our games.

I like when she shows me that she can make choices instead of just reacting anxiously to everything.

Lindsay Stordahl

Sunday 14th of November 2010

You and your dog are able to read one another very well, so congratulations! Most people are not that lucky. Very interesting comment about the dog park. I'm glad you listened to your dog's intuition and left the park.

Dawn

Saturday 13th of November 2010

Almost every dog I have had gets more "adult" behavior after two years - marking, no more chewing, better behaved, more protective, calmer, etc.

For the first two years of her life, Sephi was always getting into things and chewing things up. After two years, she stopped that and acquired other habits such as more protective of territory and marking (yes, female dogs mark too, they just don't lift their leg when they do it). She is 9 now and mostly a very well-behaved and well-mannered dog.

Maya, on the other hand has been an exception to the general rule. She is 3 now and still gets into things and chews things up. She is better behaved, but my little troublemaker still needs a lot of work. :)

Lindsay Stordahl

Saturday 13th of November 2010

Yeah, Ace really matured once he reached 2. That's when the chewing pretty much stopped all together. I know tons of female dogs that mark. A lot of them lift one leg up a big, too. Funny dogs.