10 ways to help your hyper dog relax

My mutt has a few issues with acting overly excited.

He cries in the car. He is obsessed with his tennis ball. He whines if we’re visiting someone’s house and he’s feeling nervous. If we visit his favorite parks, he drools excessively and starts looking for a stick immediately. If we visit my parents, all his training seems to be forgotten as he pushes through the door knocking people out of his way.

This is not normal dog behavior and needs to be corrected. And unfortunately, this probably sounds like normal behavior to a lot of people because so many of our dogs act like this. Here are some things I’ve done or plan on starting with my dog to help him chill out. I hope you give some of these a try, too.

How to help your hyper dog relax


1. Walk my hyper dog to get him to calm down.

I’ve said it many times, but walking my dog is so important. I notice a huge difference in Ace’s energy levels if he’s had a walk. He is a different dog, depending on if he’s been cooped up or if he’s been able to run. I know it’s not an excuse for a dog to misbehave just because she hasn’t had enough exercise. But the less pent-up energy a dog has, the easier it will be to train her and encourage good behavior.

2. Before heading out the door, make sure your hyper dog is calm.

I always tell Ace to sit before we go for a walk or go outside for any reason. I also make sure to go through the door before him, but I don’t think this is absolutely necessary. The point is to avoid having a dog that barges and pulls through the door. If a dog is calm at the start of a walk or a drive to the park, it will be easier for her to maintain that energy level. Ace learned really quickly that if he didn’t sit before going out the door, then we simply did not go. If your dog is acting overly excited and anxious when you pick up the leash, then go back and read or watch TV until she is calm. Try making her sit our lie down for a few minutes after you put her leash on.

3. Don’t talk to your dog to get her more excited and even more hyper.

I’ve made the mistake of saying things in a high-pitched, excited voice, like “Are we going to the park?” or “Are you ready, Ace?” All this does is encourage his unwanted behavior, because it puts him in a state of mind where he’s drooling, whining and pacing. If we are in the car, he is guaranteed to start whining if I talk to him that way. It’s best to just ignore a dog. Going to the park is exciting enough for a dog, and she knows where she’s going. You don’t need to tell her 10 times.

4. Enforce rules for your dog no matter where you are.

My mutt seems to forget everything as soon as we leave home. He sits calmly before a walk at home, but anywhere else, he pulls, whines and won’t stay when told. This is where I need to practice enforcing my rules. I have been too lenient when we are traveling or at a friend’s house. It’s difficult, because when I’m visiting people, they don’t want to sit around and wait for my dog to relax. And I like bringing my dog everywhere, so he has learned he doesn’t have to listen to me when we’re not at home.

5. Don’t try to vocally comfort your anxious, hyper dog.

Saying “It’s OK” or “You’re a good dog” when your dog is nervous and whining only rewards the dog for that behavior. In most cases, it’s more effective to just ignore the behavior.

6. Don’t reward your dog in any way until she is calm.

I am not going to give Ace anything he wants unless he is calm. Try rewarding calm behavior with your dog by giving her food or a treat after she sits and waits patiently. Give her a toy only when she’s not barking, pacing and being annoying. And don’t let her out of the car at the park until she is calm. This is a big one for Ace and I. From now on, I am going to wait in the car at the park and not let Ace out until he is calm. I will probably end up sitting in the car for 20 minutes reading a book.

7. Purchase a Gentle Leader for your hyper dog.

Ace immediately goes into a calm state of mind when I put his Gentle Leader on him. He knows he has to behave with it on. For a hyper or excited dog, I really recommend you try this. With the Gentle Leader on, Ace is less likely to whine in the car or pull on a walk. He is still able to do these things, he just doesn’t. He is in a different state of mind while wearing it. My goal is to get him to act calm with or without it.

8. Give your hyper dog a job to do.

Dog’s get bored easily if we don’t give them enough to challenge their minds, on top of physical exercise. Try taking your dog to obedience class, agility class or buy her a dog backpack. Or if she’s a retriever like my mutt, let her carry something in her mouth during a walk. All of these things will help her drain excess energy. See 10 jobs for my dog.

9. Make sure you’re consistent.

Consistency is the most important. My dog needs to know I am in charge at all times. If I require Ace to sit before going outside when it’s just us home but not when my boyfriend comes over, then Ace learns I’m not always serious and he can sometimes do whatever he wants. If I don’t want Ace to chase a ball in the house, then I can’t allow it one day and be angry at him the next. The same goes with any unwanted behavior. It’s easier not to enforce the rules all the time, but that is why so many dogs misbehave.

10. Practice all of the above.

A goal of mine is to take Ace to many new places such as PetSmart, different parks and new parts of the neighborhood so that in all of these places he can practice calm behavior. No matter what your dog needs work on, you can easily set up mock situations and practice one step at a time. If your dog goes nuts when guests vist, then practice having her sit by the door or in a spot in the corner of the room while you ring the doorbell. Once she has that down, then try it with a friend who already knows you’re weird. If your dog can’t stop barking at people who walk by the yard, then start by having her sit and stay calmly on a leash by the window as people walk by. Then progress to being outside with her as she sits and stays on a leash.

These are just a few examples, but there are many more. And remember each dog is different and will respond better to different techniques.

What are some successful ways you have tried to get your hyper dog to mellow out?

I will be willing to try new ideas.

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  1. Jude on April 17, 2008

    It took me a long time to train my Shadow,but he still gets so excited when he sees me get his harness and leash, he’s 11 now and he’s good when we’re out, but the anticaption of sniffing all those smells gets the better of him. Thanks for stopping by my blog, have a great day.

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  2. curryegg on April 17, 2008

    I miss my dog MAndy (chihuahua).. but she’s not here. Being knocked down by a motorcycle few years back. It’s great to have a dog! Trying to get a new one! ;D
    And thank for visiting my blog.

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  3. Apryl DeLancey on April 17, 2008

    I was lucky with my girl – she was so patient and listened very well. That is, until she got older…suddenly she had selective hearing and ignored us. We thought it was funny though and she was still a very good girl! I found standing still and looking at her until she calmed down worked. She would see the look and know it was time to sit and then she’d get what she wanted.

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  4. Rita on April 25, 2011

    I have a dog, she was 2 years 6 months. Most of my simple way to give it to relax, a trip out of town into the countryside. There she is good, and loves walking on the grass fell.

  5. Anonymous on July 12, 2012

    Thank you so much!,,, this might help!

  6. Natalie on July 26, 2012

    This is good advice. Ive got two collies so hyper is in the blood. However, i am slowly learning that a calm collie is way happier than a hyper one. Today I tried ‘silent’ work with them where i hardly spoke a word to see how much they have learnt and how much they rely on me issuing ‘commands’. You could see they were having to think alot more and lessons were sinking in better via cause and effect than when I issue ‘commands’ (and they simply obey rather having learnt). For example, they always try to barge over styles and I always have to say ‘wait’ ! Today I said nothing but stomped my foot hard on the ground when they rushed ahead. Both stopped and both waited. I got on the first step of the style and when one tried to barge up with me i simply stepped off and walked towards him. He backed off, sat down and waited until I had climbed over first. Fingers crossed!!

  7. seena on November 27, 2012

    My puppy is TOO HYPER

    I am looking for a product (NOT MEDICINE) to help puppy relax. A pill, a liquid, an antedote. ANY IDEAS? ANY SUGGESTIONS?

  8. jan on April 29, 2013

    Not sure if you are still interested but I know people who use certified pure therapeutic grade lavender oil (CPTG) (no imitations) such as Doterra on anxious, hyper or otherwise animals for calmness. A Cesar Millan (the Dog Whisperer) youtube flick shows him using the Doterra lavender on a dog who is petrified of a squeaky toy. My friend puts the Doterra lavender on her dog’s paws before it goes in for grooming or vet checks. Totally works! Hope this helps

  9. Natasha on May 14, 2013

    I have a question. Recently my dog (standard poodle, 3,5 years old) started peeing on other dogs. Just stops during a play and lifts his leg. How to stop him doing it? I can not be close to him, when he is playing or running with the dogs, to stop him. What to do? It is very enbarrassing! Thanks. Natasha

  10. Kathy Johnson on July 9, 2014

    Nothing we do calms my lula even all of ur trucks she’s a pit mix with Doberman shes fixed I can’t afford any activities and shes only hyper at night when we r outside please please please please please please help

    • Lindsay Stordahl Author on July 9, 2014

      Hmm, I know this may sound obvious but how far are you walking her each day? Maybe try a dog backpack for her walks. You can get them for $15 or so at PetSmart and Petco I believe. No need to buy a high-quality pack (some run $125+). Also, any type of interactive, treat-dispensing toys may help. Have her eat all her meals from those, as a way to work her mind. Just some ideas to start with if you haven’t tried those already.

      Maybe check out this post too: http://www.thatmutt.com/2012/09/04/help-my-dog-is-out-of-control/

      I don’t know your exact dog or situation, but just hopefully giving you some ideas to brainstorm from.