My family’s dog Brittni died too young at age 7 a couple of months after I graduated from college.
I had recently moved out of my parents’ house, but I lived close enough to make it back to say goodbye.
I then made the mistake of returning to work that Monday morning and ended up crying at my desk (talk about embarrassing!). I should’ve taken that day off, but, ironically, my boss was actually at a funeral that day, so I couldn’t.
I was in a new town where I barely knew anyone, so when family members and a friend sent me sympathy cards, it really meant a lot.
It’s hard to talk about loss, and it’s hard to know what to do or say when someone you know loses a pet.
I reached out to fellow dog lovers and asked them to share some of the kind things people did for them when their dogs passed away.
The following are some of the ideas they shared. You’ll notice most of these are very simple, yet they can mean the world to someone who is grieving.
Send a card
“When my doggie died, my neighbor, who is a designer, created and gave us the most adorable and thoughtful card,” said Heidi Waterfield, who recently lost her Chihuahua named Chupies.
“On the front there was a little wiener-like dog skipping its way up to heaven,” she said.
The card also contained a nice message along the lines of, “It’s so hard to lose a beloved pet. Jasper (their dog) will miss Chupies.”
Waterfield said she still misses her dog “every single day.”
Create a personalized gift
“What she did was transfer that image onto fabric and created a remembrance pillow,” Brown said.
Jenniphur’s face was in the center of the pillow, and each fabric petal featured a different theme such as fire hydrants, dogs and angels. It also had a tassel in the corner as a “tail.”
“Of course I was in tears when she gave it to me, and the pillow remains one of my most treasured possessions,” Brown said. “To this day, I’ve been unable to write her a thank you note because the paper always gets soaked with tears.”
Brown said the pillow is by far the most special gift she has ever received.
“It was thoughtful, personal and made with genuine love for me and my dog.”
Brown’s other shitzu, Maxwell, passed away recently, and he is pictured above.
When Lisa Cocuzza’s Chihuahua Paco passed away, the vet and staff sent her a floral arrangement with a pet sympathy book, “For Every Dog an Angel.” She said the book had a card inside, signed by every one of the staff members and the vet herself.
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“I cried when I got the gift, but it made me realize that with all his health issues, he was more than just dollar signs to this veterinary establishment,” Cocuzza said. “He was a true family member.”
“While it’s true that a majority of my friends are also dog people, everyone was completely supportive.”
When she announced Roc’s passing on Facebook, she said more than 100 people took the time to write sympathy messages.
When she later attended a dog training class, she said everyone in the club “took a moment to come over, express their sympathy, share recollections of Roc from years past, and give me a hug.”
Even her “non-dog friends” made contributions to a local animal shelter in Roc’s memory.
Saidel also lost her 9-year-old French bulldog named Dax last November.
“The most touching thought was a picture frame, sent by an out-of-town friend, engraved with her name, dates and accomplishments,” Saidel said.
A light-hearted basket
Pamela Ravenwood shared a story about how her friend brought over a basket she made after Ravenwood’s Maltese/shihtzu mix Teenie Parana died.
The basket contained “a funny movie, a pint of chocolate ice cream, a picture of a Nazi Germany concentration camp so we would realize things
could be worse – she has a weird since of humor – and a package of Oreo cookies.”
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She said having such a thoughtful gift helped her take her mind off of the fact that she had lost her “little buddy.”
While flowers and cards reminded her of Teenie dying, she said the basket made her laugh and appreciate the thoughtfulness her friend put into the gift.
“Junk food and a funny movie is just what you need at times to just think of something else,” she said. “Which is what we needed.”
For those of you who have lost a pet, what is the nicest thing someone did for you?
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