Thanks everyone for all of your good wishes on the news of our expanding family. It’s an exciting time for our whole household.
I really want to make sure that we set our dog Baxter up well for this new addition. He’s a big part of our family and this will be a big change for all of us.
One of my first steps in preparing Baxter for the baby was talking and meeting with our trainer. If you are adding a baby to your life, I would encourage you to consult a professional trainer. Our trainer has been helpful throughout the whole time we’ve had Baxter, and her insights now are very encouraging.
How to Prepare Your Dog for a Baby
My plan for preparing Baxter for the arrival of the new baby can be summed up in three words: safe, happy, respect.
- Safe – For baby and dog. No biting, jumping or chasing. No pulling leashes, ears, tails or fur. Everyone feels safe and is safe.
- Happy – Dog, baby, parents are relaxed together. Everyone gets enough care, stimulation and variety (this goes for Mama and Daddy too).
- Respect – Dog and baby are both members of this family. They have their own spaces, their own food, their own toys. Everyone can be together, but they also have their own areas if they need to be alone.
I’m touching on a few specifics for our training below. As we publish new posts, we’ll link to them here so you can read all the entries in the series. In subsequent posts, I’ll dive more deeply into each topic, but to start off I want to share a bit of background on Bax’s experience and attitude with children.
Preparing your dog for your baby – know your dog
Baxter joined our family four and a half years ago when he was 3 years old. We don’t know very much about his living situation before he joined his foster family, so I have no idea about his experience with children.
Baxter lived in a foster home for three weeks with lots of small children, and he did fine with everyone as far as we heard and saw.
Since living with us, Baxter’s exposure to children has been minimal. We have nieces and nephews, but they’re not in his life every day. In Bax’s case, absence did not make the heart grow fonder, and he has become a bit uncertain around some children. What we’ve learned is Baxter thinks infants are boring and toddlers are a bit freaky.
Babies get sniffed and then Baxter will lay down and doze—his normal routine. He’s not watchful, even if there is crying or other sounds. When baby is a bit bigger and sitting on his own to play on the floor, Baxter has been content to hang around and relax with everyone.
Once babies start walking, Baxter becomes more watchful. He doesn’t like certain small people coming up to him or wanting to pet him. He will go up to them and sniff and tolerate being petted, but it’s on his terms.
It also depends on the child. We have two nephews who are both 4 years old. They have very different energy levels, and Baxter reacts differently to each of them. It’s important that Baxter feels like he has a clear escape route when kids are around. He does pretty well with kids outside, but inside or anywhere he feels more trapped, he sometimes will growl to let us know he’s had enough.
Growling is good. It lets us know he’s uncomfortable and we can address the situation. Growling is communication, not aggression. When Baxter growls, we can remove him (or the child) from the situation, redirect them and everyone carries on.
Growling aside, we overall have a very easy going, low energy, lazy dog, and I’m hoping that attitude will give us a good foundation with our new baby. Our trainer was very encouraging because she said Baxter will have time to get used to the baby at various stages.
However, I don’t want to completely rely on my dog’s easy-going nature and assume that everything is going to be okay. So I came up with a list of things we’ve been working on to prepare Baxter for baby.
How to prepare your dog for a baby – what to think about
Preparing for dog care on your delivery day
It’s important to have a plan in place for dog care on your baby’s delivery day and also in case of emergency or if things don’t go as planned. As our baby’s due date approaches, I want to have a reliable and flexible plan with our pet sitters to make sure Baxter is taken care of.
I listed out instructions for Baxter’s care (written and digital) and I have a bag packed with all his belongings such as food, bowls and a toy. For the most part, everything is ready to make things as easy as possible for Baxter’s pet sitters.
Read more about preparing for dog care on your delivery day here.
Your dog and baby’s routines and schedules
Baxter is a dog of routine, so I’d like for any changes to our daily schedule to be in place well before baby arrives. Making sure Baxter gets his meals, walks and bathroom breaks as needed and figuring out who’s doing what is a big part of my goal of keeping everyone happy.
How to get your dog used to baby sights, sounds and smells
From crying to lotions to a play mat on the floor, the baby is going to bring (just a few) new things to our home. I hope that introducing these things to Baxter before the baby arrives will give him fewer changes to process all at once.
How to make sure your dog has his own space
Our baby and our dog need their own spaces and we need to teach them to respect each other’s space. We’re thinking in advance about how we’re going to handle floors, rooms, beds and other furniture—and what’s going to be shared or not.
Dogs toys vs. baby toys!
Baxter loves his stuffed animals, and the baby has already built up quite a collection as well. Figuring out how to keep the toys separate and accessible for everyone and avoid any squabbles is an important goal.
Training your dog to walk with a stroller
Baxter is pretty good on leash, but a stroller adds a different element. We’re practicing with an empty stroller so that when baby, Bax and I all go for a walk we can do it safely.
Car rides with your dog and baby
Mr. B loves having the back seat all to himself. He can move around and look or sniff out the window as much as he wants. But for the first little while at least, Bax is going to be riding in the back of the car. This may be more about training me to get over my guilt that he can’t sniff out the window.
How to introduce your dog to your baby
We will carefully plan for the first… and likely second, third and fourth… interactions between Baxter and our baby. This will help ensure that Baxter’s experiences with the baby are good right from the start.
As promised, I also talked to other parents and dog lovers who will share advice on preparing dogs for babies.
I hope this is an interesting and helpful series on how to prepare your dog for a baby.
Do you have any tips or questions on how to prepare your dog for a baby?
Let us know in the comments!
Julia Thomson is a blogger at Home on 129 Acres where she writes about her adventures of country living and DIY renovating. She and her husband live on a 129-acre farm in Ontario, Canada. Follow Julia on Twitter here and Instagram here.